I murmured under my breath, quietly yet loud enough for him to know I was irritated, “I don’t even like you right now.”
It all started with an innocent question, “Aren’t we taking the boys to Gatlinburg for Fall Break?” He responded with a curt “No, we can’t afford.”
I backfired with “BUT YOU SAID we could take them to for Fall Break.”
He counters with “I never said that.”
Me: “Yes, you did”
Him: “No, I didn’t.”
Me: “I wouldn’t have taken a week off for nothing.”
Him: “We could have a stay-cation”
Me: “I don’t want to take off and stay here”
Battle lines are drawn and our son comes in and asks why we are so quiet.
The silent treatment starts. Maturity destroyed.
I go to one television and he goes to the other.
I am psychotic.
So is he.
Hostility reigns in the Ewing house.
We are at an impasse.
Lines have been drawn, gridlock has begun.
What to do? I mean, two nights ago in my real talk video I discussed respecting your husband. Tonight I want to strangle him. Is there a reputable way to take out your husband?
This is marriage. It is the good, the bad, and the ugly. Twenty years later and one misunderstanding leaves us treating each other like the enemy and the cold war lingers and the aftermath is brutal.
Our marriages are under siege everyday and the enemy is swarming around waiting to strike with powerful venom. Part of me knows I should relent but the angry side of me wants to keep battling.
Yet, what is the cost? Luke 14:25-24 asks us to recognize that the cost of being a disciple of Christ is colossal and Luke 14:28 challenges us to “consider the cost.” We know that war has an enormous price tag. Are we willing to pay it? Will we dig our heels in the sand for a weeklong trip? Is the medal of victory a balance for a peaceful marriage? No. Yet, I honestly want both – to be the righteous winner and the respectful wife. WHO CAN WIN???
We can’t win but we can concede for the greater good. We can acquiesce for peace because Romans 12:18 says, “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” There are issues that are worth the fight – family vacations might be one of those things one day. But today, God is telling me to lay down my sword.
What do you need to lay down tonight? Is there a “greater good” you need cling to now?