What to do when your heart breaks

Our world has been rocked, our feelings have been crushed, and our dreams have been blocked.

What do we do? How do we fight when we are wounded?

We worship.


Both Job and David did this as their response to the death of those they loved dearly. 2 Samuel 12: 20 says “Then David got up from the ground. After he had washed, put on lotions and changed his clothes, he went into the house of the LORD and worshiped.” Job 1:20 says “At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship.” When faced with terrible circumstances, both of these men reacted in worship.

After the death of our son, I didn’t have the words to worship.  I was completely empty. An album called “Psalms” by Shane and Shane became my worship. Each psalm became my cry to God – I wore this album out. I started running right after the accident. There was something about putting headphones on and going out and pounding pavement that I needed. It hurt and it felt good all at the same time. I would blare music in my ears and just run with sweat pouring down my face. God used that to release the pent up tension, anger, and aggression. It was a practical way to vent my frustrations.

There were times I had Steven Curtis Chapman’s Bring It On blasting in my ears and I would sing at the top of my lungs, daring Satan to touch us. Then I would run with tears streaming down my face singing “I will run when I cannot walk, I will sing when there is no song, I will pray when there is no prayer, I will listen when I cannot hear…I will fight when I cannot feel.[1]

Through song, I could say openly to the Lord that I felt like I was in the waiting room of silence. I was choosing to run when I didn’t feel like getting out of bed. I was making a point to talk when I had no prayers inside me. I was deciding that with each step, I would wait until His silence had ended and He had chosen to respond. Music was giving me a voice to the desperate cries inside.

Step after step, I beat the pavement with my legs, weeping and asking God, “How long will you hide from me? How long will this last?” Verse after verse, I shouted “He has torn us into pieces, He has injured us, come let us return to the Lord. He will heal us, He will bandage our wounds, in just a short time, He’ll restore us. He will respond.[2]

These songs, Scriptures daily rolling around in my head is what changed me. These prayers and cries offered up to God began to heal my heart.  I now firmly believe that one of the key factors in God healing my heart was my time spent in musical praise and worship.  These hymns played over and over in my head changed my heart…These Scriptures set to music transformed my thinking. These songs helped me to survive.

Take some time today and create your own list of songs that help you survive when your world has been rocked, share this someone you encounter who is experiencing great loss. This is a practical gift of encouragement that we can offer to her.  Take your own top ten survival playlist and give it to her along with an Itunes and Starbucks gift cards. Music and some Starbucks coffee can bring a temporary dose of joy that leads to a healed heart.

Kasey’s Top Ten Survival Play List

  1. Songs For The Storm (album) by Brad Ewing
  2. Psalms (album) by Shane and Shane
  3. Declaration (album) by Steven Curtis Chapman (especially God is God and Bring It On)
  4. I Will Rise (song)by Chris Tomlin
  5. On The Road to Beautiful (album) by Charlie Hall
  6. I Will Overcome (song) by Charlie Hall
  7. Better Than A Hallelujah (song) by Amy Grant
  8. Blessed Be Your Name (song) by Matt Redman
  9. Beauty Will Rise (album) by Steven Curtis Chapman
  10. One More Day (song) by Lonestar
  11. Revelation Song (song) by Kari Jobe

[1] Waiting Room by Shane Barnard Psalms Album

[2] Hosea by Shane Barnard Psalms Album


4 thoughts on “What to do when your heart breaks

  1. Kasey,   May I apologize for an email that I sent to you back a month or two ago that had disparaging remarks about Obama.  I was seriously inconsiderate to send that to you and apologize for any harm that ensued. Please mark it up to pent up frustration about the goings on in Washington DC.  Please forgive me for any grief that I caused you.   Lee V. Phipps  


  2. Kasey, I too found comfort and release in listening to especially scripture songs, when I could not read or even concentrate enough to be in GOD’s Word. I know is sounds unspiritual, but it is what happened to me in the pain of great loss years ago. Last Sunday our choir sang one of those songs……….I looked at my husband and gave him the year and the name of the writer of the song……….because GOD gave it to me as HIS means of healing my heart as I waited for HIM to speak as I worshipped.
    Job 42
    5 I had heard of you by the hearing of the ear,
    but now my eye sees you;
    Such great insight in your words today.
    Love to you,

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