I have been reading Colt McCoy’s book and his dad said something that has stuck with me. He said, “prepare your children for the path and not the path for your children.” This is hard to do. I so often want to fix their path and not prepare them for how to handle the path.
Yesterday, I received a text from one of my kids that he had worn the wrong uniform and was getting chewed out by the coach. He had mistakenly worn the wrong thing and was paying the price for his choice. Now, as a momma, I wanted to text that coach and give him a piece of my mind, I wanted to leave and bring my son the RIGHT uniform, I wanted to fix his path. But I didn’t. I told him I was sorry and we talked about a way to prevent that from happening again. I let him suffer in his consequences for the day.
Yes, my son had made a small mistake and paid a big consequence for it. (being on the bad side of a football coach is never good) But in the end, he paid his dues, ran his laps, and headed to the game with the team.
This is how I see “preparing kids for the path” plays out. I could have run up there and saved him from “his path” but I didn’t. I hopefully showed him how to walk, or run, his path yesterday. This isn’t easy friends, it is hard to watch your kids run their path. Very hard. It is difficult not to intervene and smooth out the path in front of them.
I have started asking myself this question as I deal with my kids throughout the day – am I preparing them for the path or am I smoothing out their path? Somedays, I smooth and other days I prepare. I have by no means conquered how to prepare my kids for the path but I am learning step aside and allow them to journey their own hills.
Proverbs 29:15 “The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child let to himself brings shame to his mother.