Not too long ago, I sat across the table from a dear friend who has a high schooler and we began to discuss birth control and teenagers. She began to share that she had told her son that if he was going to have sex – he needed to use birth control. I sat back and wondered what I would do in the same situation. Then I shared a bit of my history with this sweet momma. I got pregnant my freshman year of college and I know without a doubt that God used the consequence of my sinful lifestyle to bring me closer to Him.
I am afraid that we as mom’s are removing the consequences from our children and in the end, removing God’s hand in their lives. God disciplines those He loves and when we remove the discipline from our kids – we remove God’s way of working in them.
I find myself struggling often with trying to defend and remove consequences from my kids. A few weeks ago Jackson came home with a yellow slip. At our school, a yellow slip is major warning that your child is not being obedient at school. Yellow slips are a dreaded piece of paper that illicits all kinds of emotions. Jackson is naturally an obedient child – it is not due to our parenting, his personality is bent to please. I was a bit shocked he received a yellow slip.
My first reaction to the yellow slip was to investigate more and find out the exact cause of his disobedience. Then my pride and parental momma bear came out and I thought that maybe my son didn’t deserve a yellow slip. I mean, my child – disobey? Really? Was the teacher wrong? Did she give him ample warnings? Blah, blah, blah, the excuses came and went.
In the end, we disciplined Jackson and used it as an opportunity to teach Jackson that he needed to obey all the time and with a happy heart. But, it was a struggle inside of me – I wanted to defend and make excuses for my child. I wanted to do the exact opposite of what I needed to do.
I am afraid that before long, yellow slips will turn into pregnancy tests. We are going to have to decide now what we are going to do – will we come in and rescue them from their own sin or will we allow God to intervene and use those things to point them closer to the cross?
UPDATE: These verse were in my bible study this morning – 1 Peter 4:1-2 “Since therefore Christ suffered in the flesh, arm yourselves with the same way of thinking, for whoever has suffered in the flesh has ceased from sin, so as to live for the rest of the time in the flesh no longer for human passions but for the will of God.” Coincidence? I think not.