Normal has been a big word in our house these last few weeks. Our oldest has cried out more than once that “he just wants to live in a normal christian family.” He then goes on to explain to us how he can be a “good christian” and not live in our neighborhood.

I am afraid that we have missed the point. We have defined our “christianity” by a set of rules. Christians don’t do this . . . drink, cuss, or  ______(you fill in your top three).  They do go to church on Sunday.  As long as we don’t do certain things and regularly attend church. We are all good. A normal christian.

What does Jesus call us to do? It is not normal. Love your neighbor.  Love your enemies. Do good to those who hurt you. Turn the other cheek. Forgive.  Forgive again and again. Give more than required. Feed the hungry. Clothe the naked. Shelter the homeless. Comfort those in distress. Go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them.

These aren’t a list of rules – this is a way of life. A different way of doing things.

We are called to be different. To be a light in the dark.

This is a fight. A war against the normal way of doing things. A constant struggle that I engage in daily. A battle within to lay aside earthly treasures for heavenly gain.


5 thoughts on “Normal

  1. Normal is easy and comfortable. The path of least resistance requires no effort on our parts. But if we’re going to live like Jesus, it will take effort. Hang in there. Praying for you guys.

  2. I wondered if your kids were on board your decision to live where you live. Now I know that they are quite NORMAL. Middle school is a very difficult age to be. Over 50% of the kids in a class may come from divorced families but a child of divorce thinks they are the only one. That’s not the same situation but one I am familiar with. They are struggling to be independent from you yet fit in with everyone else. Unfortunately, he may not appreciate the choices and sacrifices you have made until he is much older. But that happens for other things as well. In fact, he may have to be a father himself before he gets it. You are teaching him to be that father now. We love our kids so much and that spills out into wanting to give them things. But they don’t need those things. He doesn’t realize that many of the kids are jealous of him. He has what money can’t buy for them — 2 parents….visible, involved, loving. Doing what is right is work. If it is easy, something is wrong. I’m sorry for your pain.

  3. Oh, girl. It’s a constant struggle and you are right in the thick of it. You are teaching your son hard, hard lessons that through God’s grace, will build him into a man after the heart of God. Praying for you.

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